Dear Shakeup Team,
I really had no idea that life was moving so fast — until I recently looked up and no-ticed that everyone around me had a different life than I did. Confusing right? Let me explain. I have always been me and doing things my way. I have taken my time in everything. Relationships, school, and even figuring out what I wanted to do with my life – and now I feel like I’ve been left behind. I attended my 10 year reunion a few months ago, and realized that EVERYONE and I do mean EVERYONE had moved on with their lives. They had families and kids and minivans and had to leave early for baseball games and I found myself really frustrated – with me.
I’m not there yet. I don’t know that I’m trying to get there either. I haven’t found a wife. I don’t even trust women like that. I have sex with women. I love women. But I don’t want one that is just going to play me – like all these other dudes. I wanted to tell some of my high school friends that they were getting played. They were fat and ugly, with wives who have had 2 and 3 kids – and still bangin’. Those dudes are getting played. I know it. I know the game. Those same girls go out with their girlfriends week after week or maybe even once a month. They leave their husband’s at home with the kids — and they mess around. That’s just what people do. So, like I said, I’m not there yet.
Additionally and aside from my trust issues – I am just making bank [good money]. I just reached $65,000/year but most of the ladies I meet act like that ain’t enough. Where did all my boys from school find their women? Why is it working for them? What is my deal?
I’ve been thinking that maybe I should try dating online. I hear everyone does it – but I’ve always been nervous about it. I like to meet women — in places like Walgreens and the club. Maybe even 7-11. I don’t know about going online and putting myself out there — so I thought I’d ask. I’m 29. Real close to 30. Am I running out of time? Is she still there, waiting on me? How will I know it’s time to get over myself and make a life with someone?