Dear Shakeup Team,
So I’ve been dating this guy for about a year now and can really see us being together til death do us part. The only problem is my mother is a pain. She butts into my relationship and tries to give advice when I don’t ask for it. More recently it seems she’s really been trying to point out everything wrong with my boyfriendI was watching RHOA and hearing Kandi and Todd talk about going to marriage counseling made me think of my relationship. I feel like a lot of kandi’s problems in her relationship is she lets people, especially her mom, step over boundaries in her marriage. I don’t want to be that woman but I also have wanted to make sure I respect my mom….well at least I did. I recently found out that after my boyfriend’s dad and my mom met they started talking more than about our relationship. I’m not exactly sure what’s going on but I noticed my mom grinning all hard while texting someone and looked over and saw my potential father in law’s name on the phone. What should I do? Should I confront my mom and tell her to cut it out and in the process stop butting into my relationship? It’s hard because she’s my mom and you sometimes want to be able to go to your parents for advice. I’m so confused of what I should do. Please help!