I am writing because 6 years ago I walked out on 2 of my children and their dad. I now have 5 children all of whom are not in my custody. I’ve been on Facebook and have seen that the father of my first two children is engaged to be married to his high school sweetheart. I have tried to friend her on Facebook and she denied me. I tried again and she sent me a message stating ” You have two beautiful children that I am watching grow, I need you to get yourself together so you can be apart of their lives. I can’t replace you as their mom; that’s a void only you can fill but I am not friending you, so please stop attempting as this is an issue between you and their father. God bless you.” I was so pissed I know I left my kids but I don’t think she should have messaged me. I knew of her years ago when him and I were together and I knew they dated in high school; his mom kept pictures of her. I am upset that she is taking care of my children. I admit I haven’t made any effort to be in their lives. I can’t kick my bad habits but she doesn’t need to message me that way. I just wanted to Friend her on facebook so I could see pictures of him and the kids am I wrong for that? I hate that she will be marrying him soon. To be honest thats why I got pregnant to begin with because I hated seeing the pictures of her in his moms house and I thought if I had his kids by him she would fade away into the background.I’ve made some poor choices but why does she get to marry him? Help me sort this out yall.