I’ve been married for 2 years this past February 15th. One thing I did not think about prior to this was how exhausting things could be if one of us got sick or lost a job. 8 months ago my man lost his job and things have just been terrible even though we’ve tried to make the best of it. We’re in our late 20s and when we got married we both had steady jobs, building steady 401ks, college educated and partially degreed and in my mind we were on the way to making it look good like black people should. HE worked for a large company in downtown atlanta and I work in corporate for a major hotel chain. He was winning in the salary dpt making about 50k more than me, but we were good. We were preparing to by our first house and then have out first child. Did I say thing were perfect yet? So. 8 months ago he lost his job and we both knew something like that could happen. Layoffs happen. We weren’t living to lavish so I got him, he got me type of situation. Now – moving forward we’re 8 months later and I’d say at month 6 he changed his mind on getting another job to get us back to stability. He used to dabble in music and now he’s trying to get his own company off the ground and he says he’s got his last chance to chase his dream. He’s making some money here and there but now I’m the breadwinner and I want to know how long he thinks is going to go on. He says I need to support his dream because it’s going to be better for us in the long run, but I’ve never been the type to think I can do my own thing, run my own business or not work. My gma used to always say a man don’t work – he don’t eat – so I’m just wondering as a young wife, how long should I put up with him trying to find himself and supporting us, before I throw the deuces and try to get my perfect life.
ShakeUP Letter 2/17: Should I Stay Down?
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